The moment your Future Soldier leaves for Basic Training, everything changes. The house feels quieter, your routines shift, and you may find yourself thinking, Are they okay? What are they doing right now? When will I hear from them? Those first weeks apart can be the hardest—for both of you—but preparing yourself mentally and emotionally before they leave will help you navigate the adjustment with strength, clarity, and pride.
Know That a Drop in Communication Is Normal
One of the toughest transitions for families is going from daily texts and calls to complete silence. At Basic Training, phone access is extremely limited, especially in the early weeks, and it may be several days—or even weeks—before you receive their first letter. This isn’t personal; it’s part of the Army’s training structure to keep Soldiers focused, disciplined, and fully immersed. Mail is slow, schedules are tight, and no news is usually good news. Prepare by setting expectations with family and friends so they don’t panic, keep writing letters even if you don’t get a reply, and remind yourself that silence means they’re busy becoming the Soldier they set out to be.
Create a Routine That Grounds You
While your Soldier is building discipline and structure at Basic, you can benefit from creating your own version at home. Designate a specific time each day to write or reflect, schedule regular check-ins with supportive friends or family, and channel nervous energy into productive activities like walking, journaling, organizing, or volunteering. A consistent routine gives you stability and purpose during a time that can feel unpredictable.
Give Yourself Space to Feel It All
It’s normal to feel proud, anxious, sad, or emotionally scattered. There’s no single “right” way to handle the first few weeks. Some people stay busy, others need quiet, and some cry while others don’t. Whatever you feel—own it. Talk about it, write about it, and let yourself process it. True strength isn’t pretending everything is fine—it’s being honest with yourself and giving your emotions room to breathe.
Prepare for Their Growth—and Yours
Your Soldier will change during Basic Training. You’ll see it in their confidence, posture, and priorities. That transformation is the result of their hard work—and your steadfast support. But you’ll grow too. You’ll develop more patience, perspective, and pride. By holding steady for them, you become part of their success story.
Stay Connected to the Mission and the Milestone
Mark important dates like graduation and letter milestones on your calendar. Track their training progress with Army-provided schedules or guides. These small acts help you feel connected to their journey and remind you that the quiet days are temporary while the progress they’re making is lasting. Share their story with others so you can celebrate their dedication and keep your own sense of pride strong.
Last Call
You’re not just sending someone off to Basic Training—you’re stepping into a new role as their unwavering support system. Prepare your heart, your routine, and your mindset. While they’re learning to be a Soldier, you’re learning to be the steady force that keeps them grounded, motivated, and proud. Both of you are growing, and both of you are in this mission together.
I’ll be back soon with more updates and advice. Until then, Hooah!
SGM Kris Broadus, U.S. Army (Retired)