When someone you love joins the Army, you can’t help but imagine what’s ahead. The first place their journey begins? Basic Training—a phrase that often stirs up nerves for both the recruit and their family.
You may picture early mornings, intense workouts, and stern Drill Sergeants shouting orders. And while yes—there will be discipline, structure, and challenges—there’s also transformation, growth, and support.
As a friend or family member, your encouragement can be a powerful anchor. Here’s how to reassure your Soldier and remind them: they are more than ready for this.
Drill Sergeants: Leaders, Not Villains
Hollywood loves to portray Drill Sergeants as relentless, fire-breathing machines. But the truth is far more inspiring.
Drill Sergeants are mentors, teachers, and protectors. They’ve been carefully selected and rigorously trained to turn civilians into Soldiers. Yes, they’re tough—but their mission isn’t to break your loved one. It’s to build them up, unlock their potential, and prepare them for success in the Army.
Let your Soldier know:
“Your Drill Sergeants aren’t there to scare you—they’re there to shape you into the best version of yourself.”
The Hard Days Have a Purpose
Basic Training is designed to be challenging—physically, mentally, and emotionally. But every push-up, every ruck march, every formation is there for a reason: to instill discipline, resilience, teamwork, and confidence.
If your loved one writes home feeling overwhelmed, remind them:
“Growth feels tough when you’re in it—but every step forward is proof that you’re getting stronger.”
They’re not going through this alone. Everyone around them is learning, adapting, and pushing through—together.
Your Encouragement Makes a Difference
Communication is limited during Basic Training, but every letter you send holds unshakable power. A few words from home can boost morale, calm nerves, and reignite motivation.
Here are some phrases you can include in your letters:
- “I believe in you more than ever.”
- “You’re doing something incredible—one day, one step at a time.”
- “Your Drill Sergeants see the potential in you, just like I always have.”
- “Basic Training is temporary. Your strength is permanent.”
Even if they can’t write back right away, your words will be read, remembered, and repeated in their mind during the hardest moments.
Remind Them of Their “Why”
Your Soldier didn’t join the Army on a whim. They made a decision rooted in purpose—service, challenge, leadership, opportunity. Help them reconnect with that “why” when things get tough.
Try saying:
“When you’re tired, remember why you started. You’ve got what it takes to finish strong
This Is Just the Beginning
Basic Training is the foundation. It’s where Soldiers are made—but it’s not where their journey ends. Graduation is around the corner, and with it comes pride, confidence, and a lifelong brotherhood and sisterhood in the Army.
Your encouragement today becomes the strength they carry into tomorrow.
Final Thoughts: You’re Part of the Mission Too
Your loved one isn’t doing this alone—and neither are you. By sending letters, offering encouragement, and reminding them of their strength, you are part of the Army journey.
They’ll be tested—but they’ll also be transformed.
They may feel nervous—but they’ll walk out with confidence.
They may meet their Drill Sergeant with hesitation—but they’ll leave with respect.
So keep writing. Keep cheering. Keep believing.
They’ve got this—and you’ve got them.
I’ll be back next week with more tips and guidance. Until then, Hooah!
SGM Kris Broadus, U.S. Army (Retired)
